Comments on: Burnout and Fear of Success for the Work-at-Home Parent

By: momma-squirrel

momma-squirrel — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 21:33:40 +0000

Hello,
I am so happy that you wrote this! I have struggled with the same issues. being a WAHM can be very lonely sometimes and we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to do everything to the best of our abilities. I am impressed with and touched by your frankness.
Thank you
I do have to agree with juliesews ~ Flylady.com is a wonderful site full of wonderful ways to streamline the other part of being a WAHM organization of time, housework, even grocery shopping. I love it, and get lots of encouragement from it when I start to feel like I need to be a perfectionist.
Trying to do EVERYTHING perfect is what overwhelms me, and then I have a very hard time getting motivated to do everything that I need to do and end up not doing anything at all. I have found that when I let go of my Idea of perfect and work “HAPPY” instead, that my completed work is good enough even if it does have minor imperfections. Now I am not talking about letting go of the quality of your work when I speak of letting go of your IDEA of being perfect. The mentality of “If something is worth doing it is worth doing right” can lead to not doing anything at all. So I had to change my thinking to “Anything worth doing is worth doing” ~ sometimes I am able to start an finish projects in the time that I alot myself and sometimes I don’t but I don’t beat myself up as much if I at least attempt to get it done. I have also found that my “Anything worth doing is worth doing” attitude has a wonderful way of me finishing more than I gave myself credit for being able to do.
Sometimes a shift in perspective is all we need.

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By: Ionizer

Ionizer — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 12:50:30 +0000

One man (or woman)’s idea of respect can be different than anothers.

Sorry you don’t like how the internet works. We’ll be sure to change it in v2 for you.

By: Wendy Piersall

Wendy Piersall — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 16:31:19 +0000

Ionizer – my point is that this is not about censorship – this is about respect.

I have no problem with what you said. I have a problem with the way you said it.

If you want to be a jerk, you may want to read a site’s comment polity before you make yourself look like a fool.

If that was not your intention, perhaps you should have chosen different and more respectful words to get your point across.

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Challenging my eBay Skills? I Love a Challenge. | eBay Selling for eParents — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 15:34:02 +0000

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By: Allena Tapia

Allena Tapia — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:06:01 +0000

but am I right about the rest of my comment?

By: Ionizer

Ionizer — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 20:15:01 +0000

Wendy – Deleting comments just because you don’t like what a person says is quite silly. That kind of censorship is exactly what the internet is NOT about. Perhaps you should move to China, where you have everything censored

Allena is absolutely right, if you’re making it a job, then it’s a job, money doesn’t fall of a tree into your wallet/purse. It’s going to require work.

By: Allena Tapia

Allena Tapia — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 23:28:00 +0000

Despite ionizers abject cluelessness, let’s admit this: work isn’t always fun. That’s why it’s called work, right? When it starts getting very work-y,(is that a word) that’s when a good or successful entrepreneur will buckle down, be disciplined and find solutions. That’s also when a lazy entrepreneur would bale out. (Bail out?)Now, “discipline” doesn’t mean work more or work harder– it means work smarter.

By: Wendy Piersall

Wendy Piersall — Sat, 20 Oct 2007 18:04:00 +0000

Ionizer – if you had left that comment on my blog I would have deleted it immediately.

Please be respectful and let’s not resort to name calling. If you want to sling mud, please do it somewhere else – your attitude won’t be tolerated in this community.

Until you have walked in someone else shoes, you cannot know what it feels like to be living their life.

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Sat, 20 Oct 2007 17:14:13 +0000

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