Comments on: How to Recover from Insurmountable Obstacles http://www.sparkplugging.com/sparkplug-ceo/how-to-recover-from-insurmountable-obstacles/ Be a Chief Extraordinary Officer in Business & in Life Wed, 04 Nov 2009 06:52:12 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: eMom http://www.sparkplugging.com/sparkplug-ceo/how-to-recover-from-insurmountable-obstacles/comment-page-1/#comment-14456 eMom Tue, 09 Jan 2007 20:45:48 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/blog/2007/01/08/274/#comment-14456 Jessica, sadly, you are too correct. I left out more detail on this aspect, but yes, I must say that I am grateful that this happened to my friend, because he needed to experience this, in my own opinion. And for the first few days of his crisis, I simply stayed present allowed him to just 'be in it'. My concern now is that he is going through a bit of a blaming phase, which is where I am working hard to help him realize he is truly on the 'cause' side of the equation. Unless we take responsibility for being at cause, we can't take action on changing our outcomes. And yes, it is indeed excruciating to simply watch someone bottom out. It's not the first time I've been there for someone through their bottom, and I'm sure it won't be the last ;) Jackie, thank you! I agree, sometimes it takes a REALLY long time to discover those reasons. But the more we do it, the easier it becomes to recognize the next time unexpected things happen in our life. And I think you are spot on in that living life more fully most certainly grows our awareness on all levels! That's the fun part! Jessica, sadly, you are too correct. I left out more detail on this aspect, but yes, I must say that I am grateful that this happened to my friend, because he needed to experience this, in my own opinion. And for the first few days of his crisis, I simply stayed present allowed him to just ‘be in it’. My concern now is that he is going through a bit of a blaming phase, which is where I am working hard to help him realize he is truly on the ’cause’ side of the equation. Unless we take responsibility for being at cause, we can’t take action on changing our outcomes.

And yes, it is indeed excruciating to simply watch someone bottom out. It’s not the first time I’ve been there for someone through their bottom, and I’m sure it won’t be the last ;)

Jackie, thank you! I agree, sometimes it takes a REALLY long time to discover those reasons. But the more we do it, the easier it becomes to recognize the next time unexpected things happen in our life. And I think you are spot on in that living life more fully most certainly grows our awareness on all levels! That’s the fun part!

]]> By: Jackie http://www.sparkplugging.com/sparkplug-ceo/how-to-recover-from-insurmountable-obstacles/comment-page-1/#comment-14443 Jackie Tue, 09 Jan 2007 15:29:15 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/blog/2007/01/08/274/#comment-14443 Terrific post. The line about everything happening for a reason--but that we don't always get to know what the reason is really rang true for me. Finding the value in the ride or the experience is absolutely the key, and giving the "reason" time to surface to a level where we are aware of it on a conscious level. I am just discovering some of the reasons for many things that have happened in my life or loved ones' lives, as far as 5 or more years down the line. Could it be...the more we truly live life fully (regardless of our age?!)...the more "aware" we'll be? -Jackie Terrific post. The line about everything happening for a reason–but that we don’t always get to know what the reason is really rang true for me. Finding the value in the ride or the experience is absolutely the key, and giving the “reason” time to surface to a level where we are aware of it on a conscious level. I am just discovering some of the reasons for many things that have happened in my life or loved ones’ lives, as far as 5 or more years down the line. Could it be…the more we truly live life fully (regardless of our age?!)…the more “aware” we’ll be?
-Jackie

]]> By: Jessica Duquette http://www.sparkplugging.com/sparkplug-ceo/how-to-recover-from-insurmountable-obstacles/comment-page-1/#comment-14440 Jessica Duquette Tue, 09 Jan 2007 13:58:31 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/blog/2007/01/08/274/#comment-14440 interesting, isn't it, how issues come in waves. I just got an email from my sister about a dear friend who is in giant trouble around alcoholism, a dear former friend is in jail for assault, (alcohol-related), my sweetie is chasing after someone who is high on brain chemistry (manic depression) and a similar lesson comes here... I remember wise words from my past: we have no right to deny anyone their bottom (this applies whether it's alcohol or not!) I remember being shocked hearing that but it made perfect sense...I don't know what life lesson someone else desperately needs and many times, when I think I want to selflessly take their pain away, I am actually thinking of taking away the frustration, resentment and helplessness from myself! It hurts to stand by and watch a friend struggle, knowing you have the words and life lessons and skills to soothe and comfort and help them. I have learned time and again that if they are not ready to hear about change, you will break your heart doing battle with their resistance and you could lose their friendship for intruding where you are not wanted. My heart goes to you as it does to the other loved ones in my life. But honestly, there is an expression that I have had to whisper to myself many times: I will walk with you to the gates of hell, but if you chose to enter, you must go to hell by yourself. I am on your team, Wendy! ~Jessica interesting, isn’t it, how issues come in waves. I just got an email from my sister about a dear friend who is in giant trouble around alcoholism, a dear former friend is in jail for assault, (alcohol-related), my sweetie is chasing after someone who is high on brain chemistry (manic depression) and a similar lesson comes here…

I remember wise words from my past:

we have no right to deny anyone their bottom (this applies whether it’s alcohol or not!)

I remember being shocked hearing that but it made perfect sense…I don’t know what life lesson someone else desperately needs and many times, when I think I want to selflessly take their pain away, I am actually thinking of taking away the frustration, resentment and helplessness from myself!

It hurts to stand by and watch a friend struggle, knowing you have the words and life lessons and skills to soothe and comfort and help them.

I have learned time and again that if they are not ready to hear about change, you will break your heart doing battle with their resistance and you could lose their friendship for intruding where you are not wanted.

My heart goes to you as it does to the other loved ones in my life. But honestly, there is an expression that I have had to whisper to myself many times:

I will walk with you to the gates of hell, but if you chose to enter, you must go to hell by yourself.

I am on your team, Wendy!

~Jessica

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