Comments on: Keeping the Marriage Healthy when Working from Home

By: marriagehelp

marriagehelp — Wed, 06 May 2009 22:51:48 +0000

I started working from home about 7 months ago. For the most part I’ve really liked it. At first my wife didn’t seem to understand that I still had to work even if it was/is my own business. She kept wanting me to help with household chores. We had a sit-down talk where she finally realized that work=money to a degree and that if I folded clothes that we wouldn’t be able to afford more. So now she helps keep me focused on working and not distracted.

By: Bill @ How to Save Marriage

Bill @ How to Save Marriage — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 16:39:21 +0000

Wendy, I know this is an old post (maybe even forgotten), but I really appreciate your insights.

As you alluded to when talking about “needs,” communication is key.

The same thing is true with finances. Often one partner has the primary responsibility for handling the money – either due to skill or desire or both. Unfortunately, the control of money also equals power and stress.

When a marriage is out of balance (one person has more power and stress that the other), it will almost certainly lead to conflict — unless the couple makes a concerted effort at open and honest communication.

I read a suggestion that a couple should have a “money meeting” once a month to discuss every aspect of the family’s finances. That way the “accountant” shares their stress and the other spouse doesn’t feel left out on decisions.

I hope your relationship continues to be as strong as it was when you wrote this post. Thanks again for the great insights!

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By: Lisa Roberson

Lisa Roberson — Sun, 13 Aug 2006 13:45:43 +0000

Thank you so much, Wendy – what an awesome post!

‘I’ was crying while reading it! I would say I needed to read it – wouldn’t you?

Thank you!!!

By: Margo

Margo — Thu, 10 Aug 2006 15:38:20 +0000

What an incredibly important topic, and such good advice. I’d only add that once you make the (hopefully joint) decision to work from home, you make sure that your husband understands that it IS real job in every way, and deserves the same respect as an out-of-the-house one, EVEN when business isn’t going well.
You might have to remind him from time to time, but establishing that understanding levels the playing field a bit, and you can strategize on improving things together.