Comments on: Dad = Play Time :: Mom = Everything Else http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/ Home Business Advice Just for Guys Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:36:29 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: The Week The Women Left | Dad Balance http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/comment-page-1/#comment-964 The Week The Women Left | Dad Balance Fri, 25 Jan 2008 21:06:50 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/#comment-964 [...] each partner has likely gained a new appreciation for the other and many men may have become a better dad and husband as a [...] [...] each partner has likely gained a new appreciation for the other and many men may have become a better dad and husband as a [...]

]]> By: ParentingDiva.com http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/comment-page-1/#comment-393 ParentingDiva.com Fri, 23 Nov 2007 22:15:58 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/#comment-393 Call me a diva, but I would never "allow" my husband to fall into such a pattern. He would have had a gentle reminder in the form of an upbraiding. PS Why don't you be in charge of making the lunches the night before? Call me a diva, but I would never “allow” my husband to fall into such a pattern. He would have had a gentle reminder in the form of an upbraiding. PS Why don’t you be in charge of making the lunches the night before?

]]> By: JLow http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/comment-page-1/#comment-378 JLow Wed, 21 Nov 2007 05:41:52 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/#comment-378 Between us, Wife is the workaholic. She has shared before that she is glad I am not as ambitious as she is! Because I am the one who wishes to be home on time and be around Caitlin. I'd take her to the park before it's dark, I'd take her for a swim, I'd indulge her in her pretend-plays, I'd be the one reading & putting her to bed 95% of the time. Wife, who is administratively more effective than I, looks after the finances, including where to invest, insurance stuff, scouting for pre-school, etc. In Caitlin's eyes Mummee isn't home very often, so she sometimes isn't actually used to Mummee being around when she does come home earlier than expected. This is something we need to work on.. Between us, Wife is the workaholic. She has shared before that she is glad I am not as ambitious as she is!

Because I am the one who wishes to be home on time and be around Caitlin. I’d take her to the park before it’s dark, I’d take her for a swim, I’d indulge her in her pretend-plays, I’d be the one reading & putting her to bed 95% of the time.

Wife, who is administratively more effective than I, looks after the finances, including where to invest, insurance stuff, scouting for pre-school, etc.

In Caitlin’s eyes Mummee isn’t home very often, so she sometimes isn’t actually used to Mummee being around when she does come home earlier than expected. This is something we need to work on..

]]> By: lornadoone http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/comment-page-1/#comment-372 lornadoone Tue, 20 Nov 2007 18:55:28 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/dad-equals-play-time-while-mom-equals-everything-else/#comment-372 Oh my gosh, Derrek. I think you just answered your own question. Early on you were wondering why people always talk about work-life balance for women but not for men. This post may very well have something to do with that. In many, many families, the mom is expected to do much of the routine activities (read: work), while the dad is given a pat on the back and an "attaboy" if he does so much as play with the kids. Thank you so much for recognizing that you need to do more. That is an awesome first step. I hope for your whole family that you are able to to follow through with that. Congrats on making a really, really important discovery! Oh my gosh, Derrek. I think you just answered your own question. Early on you were wondering why people always talk about work-life balance for women but not for men. This post may very well have something to do with that. In many, many families, the mom is expected to do much of the routine activities (read: work), while the dad is given a pat on the back and an “attaboy” if he does so much as play with the kids.

Thank you so much for recognizing that you need to do more. That is an awesome first step. I hope for your whole family that you are able to to follow through with that. Congrats on making a really, really important discovery!

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