Comments on: Spanking :: Child Discipline or Child Abuse? http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/ Home Business Advice Just for Guys Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:36:29 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Krystle http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-3568 Krystle Mon, 27 Apr 2009 17:15:32 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-3568 I belive that spanking is not that way to go. In my household we dont do any kinds of physical violence. We talk away the childrens fav toys like tv and the computer and time out with friends. If the children get worse and get use mad we send then to there room and alow them to come back when they are ready to behive again. We have meetings with the children just so we can inforce the rules over again so they understand them and if there are any prbolmes we talk to the children about what we can do to change then and to talk about what they did wrong so the child understands what really went wrong I belive that spanking is not that way to go. In my household we dont do any kinds of physical violence. We talk away the childrens fav toys like tv and the computer and time out with friends. If the children get worse and get use mad we send then to there room and alow them to come back when they are ready to behive again. We have meetings with the children just so we can inforce the rules over again so they understand them and if there are any prbolmes we talk to the children about what we can do to change then and to talk about what they did wrong so the child understands what really went wrong

]]> By: katiem http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-2617 katiem Mon, 08 Sep 2008 04:57:21 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-2617 I don't think spanking is the most effective form of discipline. As a mom to 3 kids, we use timeouts, the removal of privileges/toys, etc. This seems to work better for us than spanking. There are those occasional times when we have used a spanking, but we always use it as a last resort. There's an excellent debate about whether to spank or not at www.opposingviews.com/questions/is-spanking-an-acceptable-form-of-discipline. Experts from both sides weigh in and have some really interesting things to say on the issue. I don’t think spanking is the most effective form of discipline. As a mom to 3 kids, we use timeouts, the removal of privileges/toys, etc. This seems to work better for us than spanking. There are those occasional times when we have used a spanking, but we always use it as a last resort. There’s an excellent debate about whether to spank or not at http://www.opposingviews.com/questions/is-spanking-an-acceptable-form-of-discipline. Experts from both sides weigh in and have some really interesting things to say on the issue.

]]> By: robert http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-1651 robert Wed, 09 Apr 2008 08:33:39 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-1651 I have 4 children ranging from 16 to 7 and have at some point in their lives spanked them. Its not a common occurance for them to be physically punished, normally they get the harsh punishment for the most severe misbehavour. I personally will not tolerate disrespect. Recently I was forced to spank my 7 year old for acting badly in school. Her teacher informed me over several weeks that she had been acting badly, like screaming, pushing, kicking chairs or desk and actually dropping to the floor and throwing a full out temper tantrum. I tried things like time-outs, grounding, taking away things like tv. Finally the teacher called me and said she attemped to hit him. At that point I went to the school and checked her out. I brought her home and proceded to light her little bottem up. Once I thought she had been spanked enough I made her hold her arms straight out to her side and placed a book in each hand. I made her hold those books as long as she could, then I let her rest. Once she had rested, I made her hold them again. believe it or not, its been 3 months since she got into trouble in school. Some people will say I abused my child. Maybe I did, I certainly felt horrible after the punishment was complete. I love my children and only want the best for them. I would prefere to teach them right from wrong before they end up in a pickle that being a child wont get them out of. I have 4 children ranging from 16 to 7 and have at some point in their lives spanked them. Its not a common occurance for them to be physically punished, normally they get the harsh punishment for the most severe misbehavour. I personally will not tolerate disrespect. Recently I was forced to spank my 7 year old for acting badly in school. Her teacher informed me over several weeks that she had been acting badly, like screaming, pushing, kicking chairs or desk and actually dropping to the floor and throwing a full out temper tantrum. I tried things like time-outs, grounding, taking away things like tv. Finally the teacher called me and said she attemped to hit him. At that point I went to the school and checked her out. I brought her home and proceded to light her little bottem up. Once I thought she had been spanked enough I made her hold her arms straight out to her side and placed a book in each hand. I made her hold those books as long as she could, then I let her rest. Once she had rested, I made her hold them again. believe it or not, its been 3 months since she got into trouble in school. Some people will say I abused my child. Maybe I did, I certainly felt horrible after the punishment was complete. I love my children and only want the best for them. I would prefere to teach them right from wrong before they end up in a pickle that being a child wont get them out of.

]]> By: Andrew http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-1607 Andrew Tue, 01 Apr 2008 19:15:13 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-1607 When your child is defiant,rebellious and throwing temper tantrums, a good, hard spanking will be the bitter but rihgt medicine. In those cases, one swat won´t be sufficient to convince the kid that´s better to behave. The "rod of correction" applied in a biblical way on the bare butt works wonder in brokeness, repentance and respect for parental authority since thousands of years. When your child is defiant,rebellious and throwing temper tantrums, a good, hard spanking will be the bitter but rihgt medicine. In those cases, one swat won´t be sufficient to convince the kid that´s better to behave. The “rod of correction” applied in a biblical way on the bare butt works wonder in brokeness, repentance and respect for parental authority since thousands of years.

]]> By: Clarissa http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-887 Clarissa Tue, 08 Jan 2008 22:51:21 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-887 It has been said that our country places way too much emphasis on punishment and not enough on positive reinforcement. It makes sense because we are at heart, a very punitive, negative society so we are always looking for ways to punish adults and children rather than looking for ways to love and help them. A country that has a history of slavery and that has committed horrendous acts against the native peoples and it's citizens is a country that doesn't think twice about mistreating children. Until we realize that for five hundred years we have been a nation of sociopaths, we will never really learn to treat children and adults with the respect and dignity that they deserve. Outlawing spanking like all the other countries are doing would be a beginning. It has been said that our country places way too much emphasis on punishment and not enough on positive reinforcement. It makes sense because we are at heart, a very punitive, negative society so we are always looking for ways to punish adults and children rather than looking for ways to love and help them.
A country that has a history of slavery and that has committed horrendous acts against the native peoples and it’s citizens is a country that doesn’t think twice about mistreating children. Until we realize that for five hundred years we have been a nation of sociopaths, we will never really learn to treat children and adults with the respect and dignity that they deserve. Outlawing spanking like all the other countries are doing would be a beginning.

]]> By: Wess Stewart http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-818 Wess Stewart Sat, 22 Dec 2007 02:42:06 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-818 I got spanked. Heck, sometimes, I got beaten. But I guarantee I deserved it. Personally, I view spanking as a necessary thing, but not always the most effective. For example, yesterday my son decided to use a red sharpie marker on the carpet in his room. You know, one day after we told the landlord we were looking for a bigger place. We decided to ground him rather than spank him. Why? Because if I would have started spanking him while I was that angry, it could have gone too far. I disagree that more than one swat is abusive, but I do agree that you can go too far. We generally decide how many swats based on the severity of the offense. For example, talking back gets one, hitting his sister, two, etc. To take it a step farther (and to enrage certain states), it's a bad idea to ban spanking. Why? Because for *many* who choose to spank it's a moral obligation, based on biblical teachings. To make it illegal would thereby make it illegal to practice an aspect of religious duty, which is unconstitutional. But you can't explain that to some people :). Either way, there's a correct way to do it, and a wrong way. I got spanked. Heck, sometimes, I got beaten. But I guarantee I deserved it.

Personally, I view spanking as a necessary thing, but not always the most effective.

For example, yesterday my son decided to use a red sharpie marker on the carpet in his room. You know, one day after we told the landlord we were looking for a bigger place. We decided to ground him rather than spank him. Why? Because if I would have started spanking him while I was that angry, it could have gone too far.

I disagree that more than one swat is abusive, but I do agree that you can go too far. We generally decide how many swats based on the severity of the offense. For example, talking back gets one, hitting his sister, two, etc.

To take it a step farther (and to enrage certain states), it’s a bad idea to ban spanking. Why? Because for *many* who choose to spank it’s a moral obligation, based on biblical teachings. To make it illegal would thereby make it illegal to practice an aspect of religious duty, which is unconstitutional.

But you can’t explain that to some people :) .

Either way, there’s a correct way to do it, and a wrong way.

]]> By: Cory Huff http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-817 Cory Huff Fri, 21 Dec 2007 09:13:42 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-817 Hey Derek, I definitely got spanked growing up. I think there are better deterrents, but it's up to each individual to find his or her balance. Thanks for stopping by A Good Husband. I moved the blog over to Blogger b/c of formatting issues I was having (I'm more familiar with Blogger) and I reposted your comment there. I hope that's okay. Hey Derek,

I definitely got spanked growing up. I think there are better deterrents, but it’s up to each individual to find his or her balance.

Thanks for stopping by A Good Husband. I moved the blog over to Blogger b/c of formatting issues I was having (I’m more familiar with Blogger) and I reposted your comment there. I hope that’s okay.

]]> By: Damien http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-816 Damien Fri, 21 Dec 2007 05:59:48 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-816 Thought-provoking post. I have 2 memories of getting "the belt." One was after I was caught lighting matches down at the wilderness by our home. I think it has its place. Sometimes children need to feel the pain, which is actually slight, compared to the consequences of their own dangerous actions as in my case the matches were. The other time I got the belt was for jumping off the 2 story roof with my brother when my parents were away. A heighbor saw us. I'd say we were around 13 or 14 at the time. (we're 14 months apart). Thought-provoking post.

I have 2 memories of getting “the belt.” One was after I was caught lighting matches down at the wilderness by our home.

I think it has its place. Sometimes children need to feel the pain, which is actually slight, compared to the consequences of their own dangerous actions as in my case the matches were. The other time I got the belt was for jumping off the 2 story roof with my brother when my parents were away. A heighbor saw us. I’d say we were around 13 or 14 at the time. (we’re 14 months apart).

]]> By: HiTechDad http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/comment-page-1/#comment-815 HiTechDad Fri, 21 Dec 2007 05:14:44 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/is-spanking-child-discipline-or-child-abuse/#comment-815 I think I got spanked maybe once growing up. The threat of a spanking was far greater deterrent. For me it was more about getting sent to my room, no tv etc. Since I was an angel I didn't really get much discipline ;-) I think I got spanked maybe once growing up. The threat of a spanking was far greater deterrent. For me it was more about getting sent to my room, no tv etc. Since I was an angel I didn’t really get much discipline ;-)

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