Comments on: Pay Attention To Husband Balance Too http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/ Home Business Advice Just for Guys Fri, 17 Jul 2009 20:36:29 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: The Best Slow Motion Balloon Pop Ever | Dad Balance http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-1149 The Best Slow Motion Balloon Pop Ever | Dad Balance Fri, 22 Feb 2008 02:37:43 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-1149 [...] Warning *** Normally the Dad Balance blog has a focus on wholesome topics such as being a better husband or spending quality time with your [...] [...] Warning *** Normally the Dad Balance blog has a focus on wholesome topics such as being a better husband or spending quality time with your [...]

]]> By: Derek Semmler http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-86 Derek Semmler Mon, 01 Oct 2007 14:41:24 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-86 JLow, that is great that you can be there for your daughter and that your wife is making the effort to get home to participate in that as well. It is also great to hear that you guys have a date night! JLow, that is great that you can be there for your daughter and that your wife is making the effort to get home to participate in that as well. It is also great to hear that you guys have a date night!

]]> By: JLow http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-85 JLow Mon, 01 Oct 2007 05:30:04 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-85 Interestingly, my wife is the one working long hours, and I am the one seemingly in a hurry to be with our nearly-3 yr old Caitlin after work. It has become a routine now where I'd be the one putting Caitlin to bed before Wifey gets home. It has become my compulsion to be the one wanting to spend the most time with Caitlin because children need their parents, and I know I am the parent able to give the time. Not that I am complaining- however I am complaining about the little time Wifey spends with Caitlin as a result. So, Wifey tries to get home soon after dinner to be able to also put Caitlin to bed. And then there is also me. So, funnily coincidentally enough, we now also have a Date Night: Dinner together, just the 2 of us. Interestingly, my wife is the one working long hours, and I am the one seemingly in a hurry to be with our nearly-3 yr old Caitlin after work.

It has become a routine now where I’d be the one putting Caitlin to bed before Wifey gets home. It has become my compulsion to be the one wanting to spend the most time with Caitlin because children need their parents, and I know I am the parent able to give the time.

Not that I am complaining- however I am complaining about the little time Wifey spends with Caitlin as a result.

So, Wifey tries to get home soon after dinner to be able to also put Caitlin to bed.

And then there is also me.

So, funnily coincidentally enough, we now also have a Date Night: Dinner together, just the 2 of us.

]]> By: Mother Earth http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Mother Earth Sat, 15 Sep 2007 22:15:55 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-33 If you can...try hard now and remember what it was like before you had kids and when it was just the two of you. At the end of the work day who were YOU thinking about? Who were you rushing home to be near? If you were a normal attentive newly married young man what did you do the very moment you got home? You took that wife of yours in your arms and hugged her with all your might and said hey or hi or what's for dinner ( yuk-yuk )?? Now that might be a simple thing or a daily moment in time but I LOVED when my husband stopped the clock with a hug first thing when he got home. Somehow and for some reason all that changed after kids.I was LAST. Now I also treated him like the relief valve - he got home and the caring of children and dinner and tasks began. However I do remember saying to him - wonder if you gave me that I'm who your coming home to feeling again --- do you think it might set a different tone for the evening?? I know it works both ways and that the wife can also stop that clock and hug her man - just think it's important to pause. Remember and appreciate how it all began Mother Earth www.bestwellnessconsultant.com If you can…try hard now and remember what it was like before you had kids and when it was just the two of you.

At the end of the work day who were YOU thinking about? Who were you rushing home to be near? If you were a normal attentive newly married young man what did you do the very moment you got home? You took that wife of yours in your arms and hugged her with all your might and said hey or hi or what’s for dinner ( yuk-yuk )?? Now that might be a simple thing or a daily moment in time but I LOVED when my husband stopped the clock with a hug first thing when he got home. Somehow and for some reason all that changed after kids.I was LAST. Now I also treated him like the relief valve – he got home and the caring of children and dinner and tasks began. However I do remember saying to him – wonder if you gave me that I’m who your coming home to feeling again — do you think it might set a different tone for the evening?? I know it works both ways and that the wife can also stop that clock and hug her man – just think it’s important to pause. Remember and appreciate how it all began

Mother Earth
http://www.bestwellnessconsultant.com

]]> By: Celebrating An Anniversary » Derek Semmler dot com http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Celebrating An Anniversary » Derek Semmler dot com Fri, 14 Sep 2007 23:02:48 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-32 [...] babysitter for the kids tomorrow night. We’ll likely head out for a nice dinner and then just spend some quality time without the kids. Nothing too fancy or [...] [...] babysitter for the kids tomorrow night. We’ll likely head out for a nice dinner and then just spend some quality time without the kids. Nothing too fancy or [...]

]]> By: Derek Semmler http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-29 Derek Semmler Fri, 14 Sep 2007 22:44:02 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-29 @Lisa :: Thanks, we all need reminders from time to time but a patient partner certainly makes it easier! @Blogging :: If the time comes that you are a husband, remember this as it will make your life easier. :) @Gary :: Lol. My TV balance comes back real quick once the NFL season kicks off. @Lisa :: Thanks, we all need reminders from time to time but a patient partner certainly makes it easier!

@Blogging :: If the time comes that you are a husband, remember this as it will make your life easier. :)

@Gary :: Lol. My TV balance comes back real quick once the NFL season kicks off.

]]> By: Gary Lee http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-26 Gary Lee Fri, 14 Sep 2007 19:50:33 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-26 I feel like this with my tv . . . i don't spend as much time as i should with it since i seem to only care for the internet . . . i'm gonna find my tv balance starting this weekend! I feel like this with my tv . . . i don’t spend as much time as i should with it since i seem to only care for the internet . . . i’m gonna find my tv balance starting this weekend!

]]> By: Blogging The Movie http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-21 Blogging The Movie Fri, 14 Sep 2007 05:34:48 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-21 interesting article.. looks like I'll have to wait a few years before I can appreciate it. seeing that I'm not a husband yet. interesting article.. looks like I’ll have to wait a few years before I can appreciate it. seeing that I’m not a husband yet.

]]> By: Derek Semmler http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-20 Derek Semmler Thu, 13 Sep 2007 22:54:46 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-20 @Nataly :: Thanks, I'll have to check out your article to get the perspective from a wife. :) @Sara :: You're absolutely right that this applies to everyone. Thanks for pointing that out. @Nataly :: Thanks, I’ll have to check out your article to get the perspective from a wife. :)

@Sara :: You’re absolutely right that this applies to everyone. Thanks for pointing that out.

]]> By: Lisa Lam http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-15 Lisa Lam Thu, 13 Sep 2007 17:03:59 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-15 Great post Derek! When my business first started I worked upwards of 12 hrs a day (gladly, I might add!) and this resulted in my partner feeling a bit 'widowed'. I still do sometimes need reminding to step back a bit and be a better partner to my partner! Great post Derek!

When my business first started I worked upwards of 12 hrs a day (gladly, I might add!) and this resulted in my partner feeling a bit ‘widowed’. I still do sometimes need reminding to step back a bit and be a better partner to my partner!

]]> By: Sara http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-14 Sara Thu, 13 Sep 2007 03:31:53 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-14 I agree that this applies to all of us. Even for those of us that aren't married. I agree that this applies to all of us. Even for those of us that aren’t married.

]]> By: Nataly http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-13 Nataly Wed, 12 Sep 2007 22:49:39 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-13 Derek, Great post! Funny enough, one of the members over at workitmom.com emailed it to me because I just wrote about this from the wife perspective on the Work It, Mom! Blog (http://www.workitmom.com/blog/). I think it is so important to not lose focus on your marriage or relationships while you juggle work and childcare - whether you're a husband or a wife:) Derek,

Great post! Funny enough, one of the members over at workitmom.com emailed it to me because I just wrote about this from the wife perspective on the Work It, Mom! Blog (http://www.workitmom.com/blog/). I think it is so important to not lose focus on your marriage or relationships while you juggle work and childcare – whether you’re a husband or a wife:)

]]> By: Derek Semmler http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Derek Semmler Wed, 12 Sep 2007 20:34:01 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-11 @Believer :: Thanks! You're right that it works both ways and the key is to have quality communication between each other. @Jones :: Thank you! The items that I listed are a pretty good blueprint for me. Now I just need to pay attention to make sure that I follow the blueprint. @Believer :: Thanks! You’re right that it works both ways and the key is to have quality communication between each other.

@Jones :: Thank you! The items that I listed are a pretty good blueprint for me. Now I just need to pay attention to make sure that I follow the blueprint.

]]> By: Jones Loflin http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Jones Loflin Wed, 12 Sep 2007 19:25:54 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-7 Superb job with the subject. I really like how you specifically listed the items that show good "husband balance." Too often men say they want to be a better husband but never create a blueprint to becoming one. Superb job with the subject. I really like how you specifically listed the items that show good “husband balance.” Too often men say they want to be a better husband but never create a blueprint to becoming one.

]]> By: Believer in Balance http://www.sparkplugging.com/the-man-page/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/comment-page-1/#comment-5 Believer in Balance Wed, 12 Sep 2007 17:34:40 +0000 http://emomsathome.com/dad-balance/pay-attention-to-husband-balance-too/#comment-5 Well put! That balance works both ways too. I have to remind myself to not go directly to the computer once the kids are in bed. We need couple time too! Well put! That balance works both ways too. I have to remind myself to not go directly to the computer once the kids are in bed. We need couple time too!

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