Comments on: Should You Be Proud Of Your Children?

By: Mireille

Mireille — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 20:28:01 +0000

This a very well thought out article on praising too much or too little. I think that as parents raising children of different abilities we always walk a thin line. Too much for one not enough for the other one day and the next day it is reversed. Because perception (what the child thinks) is so important we must be careful to give just the appropriate amount of praise or sometimes encouragement is the praise. A tough topic. You presented it well. Thanks Mireille Mireilles last blog post..Boy Scouts Troop 59 Chili Feed February 7th

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By: JLow

JLow — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 05:22:49 +0000

To the title of your post: Yes, we should be proud of our kids. More specifically- yes we should be proud of the effort.

My oldest kid is only 3.5 years old. Last night while putting her to bed, she declared that she was sad and starting crying softly. Turns out, she shared her only small piece of still-wrapped chocolate with her preschool friend earlier in the day, and “forgot” to eat some herself, effectively giving away a treat that was given to her earlier by me.

She was sad that she didn’t get to eat the chocolate.

Privately, I was proud that she was so selfless. Gently I comforted her; the words “don’t be silly” slipped out so I quickly (tried to) covered up by saying it’s ok, I will get you another. But I tried hard to make her understand that she had shared something with someone, and in the process made her good friend happy.

By: Kelvin Kao

Kelvin Kao — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 21:59:12 +0000

I think it’s important to acknowledge the efforts, and not so much the results. (Then again, what do I know about parenting?) The kids are well aware of how much effort they put in, so if they get praises for successes that they didn’t make much of an effort to obtain, they might start to lean towards things they know are effortless and become afraid of failure. I like what the guy said about being proud and taking ownership. It’s a different perspective to ponder on.