I have no problem saying “No Thank You.” Many people, however just can’t say no; or feel guilty when they do. Others feel that they have to make excuses when they tell someone they don’t want to or can’t do something.
Those are generally the same people who have trouble asking for things.
Specifically I’m referring to direct sales independent consultants who have a hard time asking others to join their team or to host a party or to come to a demonstration or even to look at their online party.
If you don’t ask, you don’t get
Don’t assume that because you may have the inability to say no, that others will as well. Don’t assume that if you ask someone to somehow engage with your fabulous direct sales products or opportunities you’ll make them feel uncomfortable.
If you don’t ask, the answer is already “no”. If you ask, you have a 50/50 chance you’ll get a yes.
The other day I received a message on my Facebook business page for my candle business. The message said: “Hi, I was wondering if you would be interested in any other network marketing opportunities? I look forward to hearing from you:) “
The back story of this message is that I have been in direct sales for twenty five years and am currently at the very top of the consultant ranking and qualify at this rank each month. That is important to this story because I know some of my peers at the same or similar levels would instantly get irritated by this message and perhaps think, “Ah-Hello. I have worked hard to get where I am. I am at the top of the ranking scale, why would I want to leave for another company and start over?”
However, instead of getting irked to receive this message, it brought a smile to my face.
I thought, “Well alrighty. Here is someone who is shooting for the moon; so she’ll at least hit the stars. I wish I had 500 team members like this one!” She did some research and realized I was top ranked. She recognized that she wanted go-getters on her direct sales team.
She gave me the opportunity to answer.
She didn’t automatically assume that I’d say no. This is a mistake many, many direct sales consultant make. They rob other people of making their own decisions. They assume they won’t want to buy, host or join. They assume. We know what happens when one assumes.
Back to the message I received. She took a chance. She had a 50/50 chance I’d say yes. For the record I am very happy with my current company and I am not looking for another opportunity. I politely responded with such and she returned the message with a polite send off.
Yet, what if I was not happy with my company? What if I was getting burned out with my current business? What if I had a fancy title, but wasn’t actually getting paid as rank? What if I had been praying for a sign if I should move onto a different phase in my life? What if?
If I had answered yes to any one of the above, she may now have an experienced direct sales consultant as a new team member.
If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
Some will, some won’t, so what. Someone’s waiting. I’m certain my little “no thank you” response didn’t slow her down at all. That’s what winners are made of.
Here’s to success! See you at the top –